Jonser made flag so I loaded up my Alpha Child and we headed out to Coronado.
I was looking for ideas about about leadership and creating a life with meaning.
We spent the day before at Legoland – a cover story for the trip!
We went full “Colorado” for the ceremony – pink cowgirl boots and hat.
What do models and professional athletes have in common?
By the time they are one quarter of the way through their adult lives, the best days of their careers are behind them.
Here in Boulder, we can pay too much attention to race fitness and body fat percentage.
So what did Jonser have to offer?
The first thing that strikes me with senior officers is how much they get done.
The trick is being challenged enough to bring out the best in ourselves but not so busy our health, family and marriage suffer.
On the flip side, drive without a socially desirable outlet leads to anti-social behaviors (addiction, aggression, promiscuity).
My Alpha Pup has stacks of motivation, loves rules and respects authority (that’s why she got the trip to Coronado). She also loves people.
Everyone who makes it through Aviation Officer Candidate School, or Med School or an MBA program has motivation.
What’s a key differentiating factor for success?
When Jonser listens to me, it is like I am the only person in the world.
Here is a skill that can be learned, and is often ignored by overachievers.
Listening is a tough one for high-energy folks — how can we get our minds to slow enough to admit external input?
I work on impulse control. Physical first, then spoken word, then relaxing with my thoughts.
As for empathy, my kids started at a buddhist preschool. The school taught the kids, and me, various techniques for taming our inner savage.
So we have motivated, empathetic listeners, who have tamed themselves. What next?
Lifelong learning and investment in the “person” through ALL levels of the organization.
The military, teaching hospitals, ministry, parenthood — these paths have the opportunity to learn, teach and serve.
Is this a field where I am going to be able to learn for twenty years?