A friend just had a new addition. Here’s a summary of what I learned.
Become a Jedi-Master of the baby swaddle – this book will teach you how – there’s nothing more important than being able to settle your baby.
Put a full-size mattress in every room where the baby sleeps – we spent two years hunched up on a circular chair and could have saved ourselves a lot of hassle by spending $100 on a twin mattress.
More than vacations, clothes, a bigger house, visits to family… what your marriage needs (for the next three to ten years) is sleep and time. Time for yourself, for friends and for each other.
Say “no” to just about everything. Now you understand why your friends disappeared when they had kids!
You will get a chance to add stuff back later. For now, just get more sleep and some light exercise.
You are likely to hold a grudge against any child, or adult, to whom you overextend yourself. It is a paradox that you serve your family best by holding some of yourself back.
Forgive each other when you inevitably fall short. It’s a stressful time.