A buddy asked me to have a look at the movie, Meru, a compelling account of climbing at the highest level.
What an amazing movie.
It reminded me of the themes that challenge my daily living.
We share a need for connection and approval.
When I see someone with an extreme need for approval, I feel compassion for the child within them. I feel this because growing up with addiction, abuse or abandonment will crank up our need for approval/fame. My kids are lucky to have parents that are present and loving.
Try this antidote.
Lots of small acts of kindness.
I’ve been at it for more than 5,000 days.
Young people thrive when working together on a challenging mission.
In middle-age, many of your fondest memories will be a result of this reality. Remember that memory is a chemical signature of a story we tell ourself.
Coming back from the mission, or simply growing up, can leave a HUGE void in your life.
Applying the kindness tip gives you a dose of meaning but you’re going to long for a stronger fix.
Surprisingly, the mission might not need to be that much larger.
- Build a veggie garden for your son
- Teach your daughter to use an inflatable dinghy
- Take your wife camping
- Drag your son on a sled to a mountain lodge
I’m constantly giving myself missions. Recognizing that I’m larger than myself, my missions have an ever lower risk of death.
Teach your kids to recognize, and be wary of, risk-seekers – especially the criminal variety. Risk-seekers are exciting when your under 25. They are a disaster as a partner in family living.
Gradually expand your sphere of influence…
- Your future self
- Your marriage
- Your kids
- Your family
- Your tribe
- Your community
- Your country
- Your planet
At times, I found it useful to take a break from my risk-seeking pals. I’ve tried learning new hobbies. I’ve resisted the urge to constantly benchmark myself against others.
It takes courage to make better decisions.