Having been through a divorce, I want you to know that the hate isn’t useful.
Getting divorced sucks, for everyone.
It’s worth remembering that nobody is enjoying the process, not even your soon-to-be-ex-spouse.
Your wise friends, knowing that nobody is having fun, will help you remove hate from the situation.
They will do this by listening, without knowing the answer.
They will encourage you to settle your differences with compassion for each other, and the rest of the community.
As for the hate…
When I find myself hating, it is a sign that my own actions are inconsistent my values. Hate is a sign that I need to make a change within my own life.
As for the divorcee…
It’s going to take years for the dust to settle.
After 1,000 days or so, you’ll be able to start the process of understanding the small ways that you might have contributed just-a-little-bit to the divorce.
Once you can see an area for improvement, start there.
Gradual self-improvement will lead you to a wonderful life.